分手后可以和前任做朋友吗?
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分手后还可不可以和前任继续做朋友?有些人认为一段感情结束后,最好和前任一刀两断;而另一些人则认为这样做未免过于极端。
 
Breaking up is hard to do – or so some people say. If you're in a relationship but not as loved-up as you once were, when is the right time to call it a day? The longer the relationship, the harder it can be. But once you do make the break, is it still possible to maintain a friendship with your ex-partner?
 
When you've been dumped, the classic line that's often used is 'let's just be friends'. That can be either wishful thinking or something to soften1 the blow of bad news. However, when you fell madly in love with your partner all those weeks, months or years ago, it would have been hard to imagine you'd fall out of love. And so salvaging2 something from that time, and remaining friends, could be a good thing to do.
 
It's good if a break-up is amicable3 – it avoids the hate, pain and anger that can eat away at us and affect our mental health. If you can accept you've had some good times but it's time to move on, then all the better – besides, you won't have to cancel your ex-partner from social media or delete their name from your contacts! If you can appreciate the mutual4 interests you had then there's no reason why you can't continue a platonic5 relationship.
 
But holding onto the past and staying friends doesn't always work – you just have to accept you and your partner just weren't compatible, therefore it's best to give each other space, to look forward, and try to get any romantic feelings you once had out of your system. And according to some, staying friends with your ex isn't a good option. Marie-Claire Chappet told the BBC, "It does nothing but prolong the pain of the break-up".
 
Helen Fisher, a neurologist at the Kinsey Institute who's been studying the psychology6 in relationships, also told the BBC: "The way to accelerate mending a broken heart is similar to treating addiction7 – you put away their things, stop looking at their social media and have no contact with them."
 
So, maybe it's time to get in touch with your real friends, instead of seeking friendship with 'a ghost from the past'.


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1 soften 6w0wk     
v.(使)变柔软;(使)变柔和
参考例句:
  • Plastics will soften when exposed to heat.塑料适当加热就可以软化。
  • This special cream will help to soften up our skin.这种特殊的护肤霜有助于使皮肤变得柔软。
2 salvaging e65753a5869b6a7f4a2f75038af94195     
(从火灾、海难等中)抢救(某物)( salvage的现在分词 ); 回收利用(某物)
参考例句:
  • A shipping company has made a claim for the cost of salvaging a sunken ship. 某轮船公司要求赔赏打捞沉船的费用。(make a claim 要求)
  • It is not uncommon to hear that a shipping company has made a claim for the cost of salvaging a sunken ship. 航运公司为打捞沉船的费用而提出要求,这并非奇闻。
3 amicable Qexyu     
adj.和平的,友好的;友善的
参考例句:
  • The two nations reached an amicable agreement.两国达成了一项友好协议。
  • The two nations settled their quarrel in an amicable way.两国以和睦友好的方式解决了他们的争端。
4 mutual eFOxC     
adj.相互的,彼此的;共同的,共有的
参考例句:
  • We must pull together for mutual interest.我们必须为相互的利益而通力合作。
  • Mutual interests tied us together.相互的利害关系把我们联系在一起。
5 platonic 5OMxt     
adj.精神的;柏拉图(哲学)的
参考例句:
  • Their friendship is based on platonic love.他们的友情是基于柏拉图式的爱情。
  • Can Platonic love really exist in real life?柏拉图式的爱情,在现实世界里到底可能吗?
6 psychology U0Wze     
n.心理,心理学,心理状态
参考例句:
  • She has a background in child psychology.她受过儿童心理学的教育。
  • He studied philosophy and psychology at Cambridge.他在剑桥大学学习哲学和心理学。
7 addiction JyEzS     
n.上瘾入迷,嗜好
参考例句:
  • He stole money from his parents to feed his addiction.他从父母那儿偷钱以满足自己的嗜好。
  • Areas of drug dealing are hellholes of addiction,poverty and murder.贩卖毒品的地区往往是吸毒上瘾、贫困和发生谋杀的地方。
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